Hello Village! It’s been a minute since I’ve sent out a newsletter. Sometimes life can get so darn busy. I apologize for my absence but I’m happy to say I’m back! I look forward to connecting with you here and here on Instagram and here on Facebook!
The other day I found myself faced with one of those inevitable life annoyances, a broken traffic light with no officer present to direct traffic. This happened not once but twice in the same day. What are the changes? I felt that there must be a greater lesson to learn from this experience. But before I was open to receive guidance from the universe my first response was one of annoyance and dread, “Ugh! How is this major 4 way intersection with about 16 lanes total going to navigate this, we’ll be here all day?!” But, I have to tell you it went surprisingly well! Everyone worked together, everyone was fair, allowing each direction to have their turn, no horn honking, no aggressive driving. And it got me to thinking that we’re more cooperative than we give ourselves credit for. We all want the same thing, to feel seen, recognized, validated, to move forward in life with ease. You might be thinking, “But we’re all so different, Gina! How can I possibly feel seen and heard by someone who doesn’t share my values?”. My feeling is that it is possible because fundamentally, we all want the same thing. Despite the fact that we have different religious views, political beliefs, sexual orientations, or that we take care of our health needs differently, we all want to feel safe, loved, and respected.
“We are all travelers on a cosmic journey, stardust swirling and dancing on the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment. It is a little parenthesis in eternity.”Deepak Chopra
This perspective isn’t only helpful for situations like being stuck at a traffic light, it can also transform our relationships. Instead of always jockeying for position, imagine you just listen, imagine you pause before answering, imagine honoring and respecting your partner/friend despite your differences.
Here’s your homework, next time your partner or co worker or friend is expressing a need or viewpoint that is in opposition to yours simply validate their truth, “I understand why ______ is so important to you and I hear you.” and then pause. What do you notice in your body? How does it feel to not rush to justifying or defending yourself? I’d love to hear what you discover! Get curious about life and connecting and relating to one another, it has the power to transform humanity.